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Christopher Calhoun
12-31-2019, 10:24 AM
Iíve been in deep thought lately, I donít know why. Maybe I want more out of life or maybe I want money to fall from the sky. Perhaps both. I want to work for myself. I will work for myself. I donít know how yet, but I will. Anyway, I digress.

This discussion has been discussed at length but, it seems more and more, time and again instances of people pussing out pop up. Am I a bad motherf***ker? I donít know. Iím working on trying to be.

Perhaps at 37-38 (in February) years old Iím just turning into a crotchety old man, tired of the amount of dumb in the world. What do I think the problem is?

Pride. Real pride. There is a severe lack of real pride in world. Maybe itís relegated to the US. Nobody is proud to be intelligent any longer. I read what are supposed to be considered ďscholarly articlesĒ online with grammatical errors. It is literally in style now to be helpless and whiny and feign offense or trauma at something that either has at best a negligible effect or no effect at all. I meet scores of people daily. I work at an ALS clinic and I see people who have ALS who REFUSE the help of their spouse or loved ones, though they often have no choice physically. Then we see people where ďoh gosh, a lady jumped out of a ferry, itís traumatic!Ē

Lack of pride in being strong and capable is running rampant though as well. ďRun? What for? 100oz of water? I only drink 6-8 ounces or Iíd have to pee all the time.Ē

At work, we are working on verbiage to our patients that they can get used to hearing for when theyíre late, have completely missed their appointment time, and cannot be fit into the schedule. My bossís response to that? Well, we have to try our best to see every patient. We do, unless their provider literally has zero time to spare to do it. You cannot sacrifice the many for the WANTS of the singular. A gentleman was ďoffendedĒ yesterday because he was 25 minutes late (so his actually missed the entirety of his appointment) and had somewhere to be and wanted to be seen right the second he walked up. He also wanted his parking validated because he was in a hurry. So, I told him he wasnít going to be seen immediately but I can see if there are any openings. He said unless heís seen in the next ten minutes, heíd take his care elsewhere. What did I do? I gave him the number to the office of medical records along with parking validation with a straight look on my face and repeated he wonít be seen in the time he is requesting.

He was the age of people that I grew up looking up to for being hard. You know the ones, serving in maybe two or even three combat theaters, not giving a ratís ass about what was going on. My grandfather was like that, he just didnít give a crap because heíd seen it all. He was hard. I saw my grandfather cry a total of three times in my life. All, three days in a row after my grandmother passed away. You know what he did though? He kept going. He kept busy. He didnít make excuses. Neither does my dad who has cancer, neuropathy in his feet, a deteriorating disk or two in his spine, and shingles. But dad gets up, goes to work, has a good time and comes home and doesnít complain, like Iím doing right now. (Laughs).

Nobody is hard anymore. And it seems they donít want to be. I want to be. God help me if I turn into a snowflake looking for handouts. Somebody please red dot me in the face if I do!




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Gabriel Suarez
12-31-2019, 10:49 AM
Every man has a choice to be what he wants to be. Choose today, and as harsh, unfeeling, and hard-hearted the pussiemen might think this is - fuck the rest.

Oscar01
12-31-2019, 11:40 AM
Every man has a choice to be what he wants to be. Choose today, and as harsh, unfeeling, and hard-hearted the pussiemen might think this is - fuck the rest.


Honestly XO and I are getting a lot more selective about our social circles. Weak-willed whiners have very little to offer us, even if they're "family". Our time is more valuable.


Harsh? Maybe...

Papa
12-31-2019, 11:54 AM
You don't get to be a crotchety old man yet. That's for me, and Ted, and PD and Choirboy and ....aw, f*** it. Go ahead.

Greg Nichols
12-31-2019, 01:37 PM
You become hard by associating with hard men and being exposed to adversity. These are the dominating reasons Gabe and I get along so well, and others like Sua. Hard is a state of mind that has been tempered with heat and pressure.

Christopher Calhoun
12-31-2019, 01:52 PM
You become hard by associating with hard men and being exposed to adversity. These are the dominating reasons Gabe and I get along so well, and others like Sua. Hard is a state of mind that has been tempered with heat and pressure.

Thatís right right there. Most likely why Iím not as hard as I used to be/want to be. Letís just be real.


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chad newton
12-31-2019, 01:55 PM
Honestly XO and I are getting a lot more selective about our social circles. Weak-willed whiners have very little to offer us, even if they're "family". Our time is more valuable.


Harsh? Maybe...
You have too, people like that only try and bring you down to their level.... It’s about you and yours, not what others think. Life is too short, do what you want and fuck the rest. At the end of the day, it’s only you that is responsible for you and yours nobody else...

chad newton
12-31-2019, 02:01 PM
I will give you an example, like the dude that came into your work. I have a hard time being a collective person at moments like that. I probably would have told him that I didn’t care if he missed his appointment, switches places to go, or does tomorrow... But I’m an asshole and I do t get along with people, so....

Greg Nichols
12-31-2019, 02:12 PM
weak willed whiners are like stupid people. They drag you down to their level and beat you with their experience

chad newton
12-31-2019, 02:13 PM
I will tell you another one. A lady came into our business said she tried drove all the way down from Ojai to Saticoy(give or take 20miles) to pick up this certain type of interior plaster that only we sold and we were closed. I said yeah what time did you come, she said 5:10. I said we close at 5, so I wouldn’t expect anyone to be here. So she went on a rant about how it was an inconvenience that she drove all the way down here and we were closed and then continued on how I needed to pay for her fuel for both ways now. I immediately told her, Bitch get your money and stick it up your ass, and get the fuck out of my store.... For the 50.00 I would have made off her, I could care less to ever see her again..... The funniest part was, her plasterer(normal dude, kinda regular weekend guy)got her outside of my gate and pleaded with me to sell him the product. I sold it to him, just because I felt sorry he work for her. I charged the shit out of her too.....hahaha...

chad newton
12-31-2019, 02:16 PM
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1DpH-icPpl0


Was on the radio right now, good timing..

Bill the Vet
12-31-2019, 02:18 PM
You don't get to be a crotchety old man yet. That's for me, and Ted, and PD and Choirboy and ....aw, f*** it. Go ahead.

Y yo tambien[emoji6]


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Papa
12-31-2019, 02:33 PM
Y yo tambien[emoji6]


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Absolutamente.

Mike OTDP
12-31-2019, 07:51 PM
Perhaps at 37-38 (in February) years old Iím just turning into a crotchety old man, tired of the amount of dumb in the world.

That's not old enough to be "old", or a curmudgeon. Another 20 years and you'll qualify. :-)

However, being tired of the amount of sheer stupidity in the world is not reserved for older people. The young may also share in the disgust. We curmudgeons are a generous lot, and there's plenty of stupid that needs to be sneered at.

With regard to pride, we strive to be stout of heart, strong in body, and skilled in all manner of arts (fighting and otherwise) because we choose to excel. Because we seek to cut our names and deeds into the rock of history. The print may be fine, but the lettering will be of solid gold. It beats being an economic producing/consuming animal.

chad newton
12-31-2019, 09:26 PM
Being a crotchety asshole is a choice. I for one won’t do it.....

Warped Mindless
01-01-2020, 08:35 AM
I know a grown man who told me that after watching the video of the recent church shooting that he couldn't sleep that night or function well the next day.

"It just really messed with me seeing someone die."

What a little b***h!

Dont even get me started on the younger (below 30) genetation. Im 29 and ashamed to be associated with them. They take pride in being a victim like it scores them some points or something.

Oscar01
01-01-2020, 11:44 AM
You become hard by associating with hard men and being exposed to adversity.


Quite true and I'll simplify the statement to: you become better by associating with successful peers (fitness, combat, finances etc).


Very thankful for WT and SI.

Christopher Calhoun
01-01-2020, 01:06 PM
Quite true and I'll simplify the statement to: you become better by associating with successful peers (fitness, combat, finances etc).


Very thankful for WT and SI.

Finances. You speak truth.

I mean, not to sound rude but Iíve started challenging those in my circle to up their investments, pay off debt, and look to add...then add...additional income. The ones that scoff at that Iíve sort of stopped talking to. Not because I donít like them, but because I want like minded people in my circle.


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jmoore
01-01-2020, 02:07 PM
I know a grown man who told me that after watching the video of the recent church shooting that he couldn't sleep that night or function well the next day.

"It just really messed with me seeing someone die."

What a little b***h!

Dont even get me started on the younger (below 30) genetation. Im 29 and ashamed to be associated with them. They take pride in being a victim like it scores them some points or something.

Someone - on this list, I think - has this sig line ...
Ē Verily, I have often laughed at the weaklings who thought themselves good because they had no claws.'ď
More and more people like this surround us in society - the sheep we hear about so often.

geezer john

TeamStone
01-02-2020, 11:51 AM
Ē Verily, I have often laughed at the weaklings who thought themselves good because they had no claws.'ď


It is a Nietzsche quote.

He isn't necessarily an admirable man, but he does have some good quotes.

Jeff22
04-04-2020, 03:59 AM
I pretty well purged most of the dysfunctional and lost people out of my life when I was about 25. I got tired of waiting for people to get their act together. (In truth, there were only a couple to purge. My circle of friends has generally been very competent and capable, though sometimes of questionable judgement in their romantic endeavors)

People are either good to go or they are not. You may perceive potential in someone, but it is often a hallucination or a mirage.

I try to cautiously think the best of people, but I am still sometimes disappointed. As Gabe once said, it is good to maintain distance from disorder.

michael
04-08-2020, 12:45 PM
Most of what society views as "men" are nothing more than entitled, weak, self-serving pussies. You want to be hard? Then get hard. Do hard shit, hang out with hard men, challenge yourself every day physically and mentally, read good books by those who have gone before and represent what you want to be. Do uncomfortable things, expose yourself to the elements on a regular basis, exercise outside when it's raining/snowing/sleeting/hot/cold. Take control of your life/finances/marriage/spirituality/family/job/business by putting in the work. It's not easy, but it is obtainable with effort and sacrifice. Why would anyone want to live any other way?

kabar
04-12-2020, 09:58 AM
Our culture has been poisoned by feminist ideas to such an extent that most people think victim-hood is a virtue. The left has worked hard to stamp rugged individualism from the American male psyche.

M_P_E
08-12-2020, 09:10 AM
Our culture has been poisoned by feminist ideas to such an extent that most people think victim-hood is a virtue. The left has worked hard to stamp rugged individualism from the American male psyche.

Victim-hood is now a virtue and achievement is a source of shame, or at least social awkwardness and embarrassment.

WinstonSmith
08-12-2020, 10:28 AM
Our culture has been poisoned by feminist ideas to such an extent that most people think victim-hood is a virtue. The left has worked hard to stamp rugged individualism from the American male psyche.


Victim-hood is now a virtue and achievement is a source of shame, or at least social awkwardness and embarrassment.

That's not an accident. It's 100% part of the "intersectionality" concept from Critical Theory (e.g. "white fragility", LGTBQ, etc.).

WinstonSmith
08-12-2020, 10:30 AM
Hard times make hard men.
Hard men make good times.
Good times make soft men.
Soft men make hard times.
Hard times ...

...

Brace for the incoming hard times. It's overdue.