View Full Version : Bought some expensive jewelry…and she said yes!!

08-02-2015, 08:44 PM
I'm pretty excited about it. She's the right girl for me, without a doubt, and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with her.

I've got two questions:

If you could give me one piece of advice going into a wedding (and marriage), what would it be?
I'll be buying a new suit for the wedding and want to be able carry my gun in a classy manner with a nice OWB holster. Any recommendations?

08-02-2015, 09:08 PM
First, congrats. I too, am recently engaged.

1. Talk her into a Vegas wedding. I did mine, this weeds out some of the family I really don't want there that bad due to cost for them to drive/hotel. It also gives to a plethora of after hours partying. The rest I'm still figuring out with you.

2. I'm going to rent a tux but when I got my last suit, the guy at men's warehouse didn't flinch when I told him I needed him to size me while wearing my holster. (IWB though) You may want to go for a Walther and a shoulder holster, Agent 007.

08-02-2015, 09:28 PM
Perhaps a special edition American Holster.

Greg Nichols
08-03-2015, 07:11 AM
To me fiancé sounds a lot like financing.. That being said there's still time to E&E and change your identity. Failing that one thing I would give for advise is listen.. set time aside to Truly listen.. Women don't want you to fix stuff, they just want to know you're there for support.

Any GOOD men's clothier will have an in-house tailor. Go in wearing the gun and have them fit the jacket around it. I recommend El Paso Saddlery for a good holster/mag pouch/belt set, they even come in exotic skins if you want to go all out.

08-03-2015, 07:25 AM

This may sounds a bit weird but you have to like them as much if not more than you love them. You can love someone that drives you nutts and makes you want to kill them everyday! But if you like them you will want to spend all you time with them. I got 30 plus years with the one I like!!!!! (Ole Heifer ain't killed me in my sleep yet so I guess she likes me too). Don't spend a lot on the wedding- you will need that for stuff to live on. Have a nice small one with friends and family. You will not regret it at all.

As far as the suit goes, others have better advice on it than me. Just be sure it is something you can wear again and again to justify the expense.

08-03-2015, 08:47 AM
Ive been with my wife for 25yrs, and weve been married almost 23yrs. It hasnt been perfect, but none are.
You not only need to love each other, but should be best friends. You need to communicate, and be able to do so freely, about anything. With communication, and a desire to solve the problem, on both sides, there is nothing the two of you cannot get through.
Remember that marriage is 80% give and 20% take, from both sides.
A nice wedding and fancy suits are nice, but dont make it work. We got married in my parents living room, i wore jeans and a button up shirt (usually wear t shirt). My band was my grandfathers, hers just a plain cheap band bought at a dept store. My mother made the cake. There were maybe a dozen people there.
Yes, we were just poor.
You can do the big wedding, just dont lose track of what its for.
You will fight, unless one of you is a houseplant, so dont sweat it. Its how you fight, and sometimes why, and especially if you can stop, and make up, that is more telling.

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08-03-2015, 09:16 AM

I hope you are as happy in your marriage as we have been in ours. (And we've been very happy).

I agree that you should skimp on the wedding and start out the marriage without money problems. Unless your Bride-to-Be has indicated she wants the fancy wedding there is no sense starting out with unnecessary debt.

Listening to the Wife is key. I have to second that motion as well. And make sure you resolve every morning to make the coming day the best one yet. You won't always succeed, but you will have made the effort.

08-03-2015, 09:48 AM
Love is a verb!

Greg Nichols
08-03-2015, 11:32 AM
Love is a verb!

Thanks John Mayer

08-03-2015, 11:48 AM
My wife and I have been together 12 years and married 9. So far I think the key is finding someone whos crap you can put up with for the rest of your life lol.

As for the wedding ask her what she wants and do that. We had a big Catholic wedding with an even bigger reception after. I hated it but she loved it.

08-03-2015, 12:52 PM
Exactly, I told my wife, now of 30 years, have whatever kind if wedding you want, I'll pay for it, tell me when and where to show up.
I also agree that communication, which listening is the most important part of needs to be a priority. No one should have to agree all the time, just stay respectful.

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08-03-2015, 01:17 PM
There is a big difference between outside the home and the inside world.

08-03-2015, 01:34 PM
+1 to a Vegas wedding. There is very little more stressful and expensive than a big wedding.